Open letter to society:
In a sentence, the underlying structure of this country is bullshit.
I know it's a social stigma to let the kids make their own decisions, but honestly. Your tatics of getting all sorts of teenagers to say every single variation of "I'm waiting to have sex," and having next to no teenagers (none of which are under 17) proclaiming that their first time was actually satisfactory does NOT accurately represent what's actually going on in all of our minds, nor of what actually happens.
I'm sure you have plenty of statistics and upstanding young adults to back everything you have to tell us up, but real life is impossible to sum um in the words and percentages of the few. Nowhere do I see an example of a long-term relationship. Why not? I myself met my current boyfriend (who I now live with) when I was 13 and he was 18 on the internet. We met last summer at 16 and 21, had sex the second night I stayed at his apartment, and things couldn't be better.
Plenty of teenagers are going to have sex expecting other than what actually happens. That's life. We're not so far removed from the animal kingdom that sex has to be yet another natural thing made to conform to whatever unsaid social rules we decide to follow today, are we? Of course when you have sex for the first time, you don't know what you're doing. You've never had sex before! As with everything else, practice is essential to learning, and there's nothing any of us learn better from than mistakes.
No matter how hard you try to reach out to every single last one of us teens, you're always missing someone. I never heard the end of abstinence and waiting until marriage. I paid no attention, knowing that no one's judgements and decisions are better for me than my own. If you continue in this fashion of cramming heaps of testimonial anguish, denial and moral obligation, you're liable to brainwash.
Education about all things sexual disspells ignorance, but only if it's unbiased information. I don't support the actions or the words of anyone who claims to be an expert on a person they aren't anymore, and can't believe that anyone would mean other than to coax the rates of teen pregnancy and sexual activity to an "acceptable" level. I leave you with a question: At what rate is it acceptable for teenagers to be themselves?